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Improving Self-Esteem

It’s normal to be self-critical or to compare yourself to other people sometimes. Everyone goes through a crisis of confidence at some point in their life. Major life changes such as moving house, becoming a parent, or the end of a relationship, can knock your confidence. There might also be more specific situations that make you compare yourself to others. But if you tend to put yourself down a lot and constantly doubt your abilities, or if you frequently see yourself as being not as good as those around you and you believe that other people view you in a negative way, then you may have a problem with low self-esteem. If this sounds familiar to you, it can be helpful to understand why you might have low self-esteem and to learn about strategies you can use to manage these feelings.
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An Overview of Self-Esteem

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What Could be Keeping You from Feeling Better?

Feeling low can affect your daily routine and behaviour, which in turn can lead to feeling even lower. A lack of energy or motivation can lead to you doing less, not completing your daily tasks and letting other people make decisions for you. You may notice that you become less and less active, don’t go out much, and neglect your favourite activities. This is the vicious cycle of low mood.

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Do you have low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem affects how you think, behave and feel, both emotionally and in your body. Here are some common experiences described by people who struggle with low self-esteem:

How your body might feel

  • Tired / fatigued
  • Low in energy
  • Headaches
  • Tension
  • Blushing or feeling hot in public

Thoughts you might have

  • You might have thoughts that you’re not good enough
  • You might think that other people view you in a negative way
  • Blaming yourself for things that aren’t your fault
  • Assuming that you can’t do things before you’ve even tried
  • Brooding on your mistakes or on things you think you’ve not done well

Feelings you might have

  • Anxiety
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Low mood
  • Flat or fed up
  • Hopelessness
  • Anger

Things you might do

  • Pass on new experiences or challenges because you believe you’ll fail
  • Try to achieve perfection most of the time, or have standards that are unrealistically high
  • Avoid scenarios that put you in the spotlight (e.g. speaking out, competitive sports, putting yourself out there in friendships and relationships)
  • Seek excessive approval or reassurance from others
  • Not be assertive and say “sorry” all the time
  • Comfort eat or over-control what you eat

If  any of  these  sound  familiar, you can find out more about low self-esteem in the ‘Learn’ section above. You’ll also find some helpful tips and advice on improving your self-esteem in the ‘Manage’ section below.

Manage

Ways to manage
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Tips on Managing Change in Our Lives

We all have to cope and manage with change in our lives for lots of reasons. Here are some tips and thoughts on navigating through a period of change.

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Relaxation

If you feel tense a lot of the time, you can try learning some relaxation skills, as these should be helpful.

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Computerised Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – CBT – is a psychological therapy based on the relationships between what we think, what we do and how we feel. CBT teaches you how to recognise and tackle problems in the here and now, rather than in the past.

Support

Local support and resources

With support from the people in your life and maybe with a little help from other sources like the ideas on this website,  you’ll most likely find a number of ways to improve your self- esteem.  However, if you have concerns about your mental health more generally and think you may need further support,  please speak to your GP in the first instance.    

Here are some other sources of support you might want to consider: 

  • It might be helpful to have a look at some of the other pages on this website including the sections on:
  • Living Life  offers a range of structured psychological interventions and therapies to improve mental health and wellbeing. This service is appointment-based and specifically for low mood, or mild/moderate depression or anxiety. Living Life are open Monday to Friday, from 1pm to 9pm, and you can phone them on 0800 328 9655 for an assessment appointment.
  • Computerised Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (cCBT) is a highly effective treatment for people with mild-to-moderate mental health difficulties. There are several online user-friendly programmes that NHS Lothian can provide access to. To find out more, speak with your GP, or visit the cCBT section on this website.

The Lothian Health and Social Care Partnership websites are also a good place to look for locally available support:

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The Wellbeing Lothian website has been developed to provide information, self-help resources and links to help you manage your mental health and wellbeing.

We want to help you make changes in your own lives and point you in a direction to start doing so. This is Wellbeing Lothian’s aim.

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