FAQs: Supporting Neurodivergent Children and Young People
Below, youโll find answers to common questions about where to start, how to find support, clinical assessment, and what to expect when seeking care.
You do not need a diagnosis to access most supports.
Clinical assessment and diagnosis are only possible parts of support โ and these are not the starting point for most children. Learn more where to start below.
Last updated: March 2026

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Neurodiversity Explained
What is a “neurodevelopmental condition”?
Neurodevelopmental conditions are present in at least 15% of the population and are part of natural differences in brain development, often influenced by genetics or an infantโs environment. Neurodivergence is a part of a personโs brain development and is not something to cure. Some environments or situations may create challenges, and strategies can help. These conditions can occur on their own or alongside each other. For example, sometimes people can have both autism and ADHD.
A neurodevelopmental condition may impact:
- Motor skills
- Social skills
- Learning and cognition
- Sensory processing and interaction
- Speech, language and communication
- Activity and impulsivity
- Attention, memory and concentration
- Emotional wellbeing
- Mental Health
- Attachment and relationships
- Sleep
- Eating and feeding
Neurodevelopmental conditions include the following:
- Intellectual Disabilities
- Autism
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
- Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD)
- Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD)
- Developmental Language Disorder (DLD)
Understanding the Terminology
Neurodevelopmental conditions and neurodiversity uses specific terms that might be unfamiliar. Use the dropdown arrows below to learn more about each term.
Learn more about terminology and using neuro-affirming language: language guide and NAIT’s Neuro-Affirming Language Checklist.
Neurodiverse
Neurodiverse describes a group of individuals who represent all types of neurodiversity. An individual cannot be neurodiverse.
An individual who is not neurotypical is neurodivergent.
Neurodivergent
The term neurodivergent is broad and used to refer to an individual whose brain functions differently than societal standards of โtypical.โ Neurodivergent is not a diagnosis, but the term is used to describe people whose neurological conditions mean they do not consider themselves to be neurotypical.
People whose brain functions differently than dominant societal norms may be identified with one or more neurodevelopmental conditions. More well known neurodivergent neurotypes are autism and ADHD.
Neurotype
A neurotype refers to the unique way a person’s brain processes information, learns, communicates and interacts with the world. Different neurotypes include autism and ADHD.
Masking
Masking is a strategy used by some neurodivergent people, consciously or unconsciously, to appear neurotypical โ like a social camouflage. This strategy can help neurodivergent people cope in school, work and social situations, but it can also have negative impacts on their mental health and lead to burnout.
Masking may look like:
- Mimicking or copying other people in social situations to be accepted
- Rehearsing social responses to avoid saying the wrong thing in conversations
- Hiding or minimising special interests
- Developing perfectionistic tendencies like obsessively organising or taking notes and being unable to relax leading up to plans
- Attempting to always appear in control to avoid shame or guilt about internal struggles
- Suppressing stimming behaviours like leg bouncing or swaying as not to disturb others
- Overdoing something or taking on too much responsibility until exhaustion sets in in order to demonstrate capability and reliability
Neurodivergence
Neurodivergence refers to having a brain that processes information differently than what is considered typical. Generally, people who have a neurodivergence are referred to as โneurodivergentโ while those who do not are referred to as โneurotypical.โ
The core differences between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals lie in how their brains process information, interact with the environment and experience the world.
Neurotypical
This describes people who process information in a way that is considered โstandardโ or โtypical.โ Someone who is neurotypical develops brain functions, like social and organizational skills, at similar ways and rates as others.
Neurotypical people are considered to be the majority of the population, meaning most systems for learning and working will often have been set up to meet their needs. For example, if they need a pen and paper to write an essay, the school gives them a pen and paper. If they need a phone to call clients at work, their office provides one.
Adjustments
Adjustments are changes to the environment, communication, or expectations that help neurodivergent people take part fully and comfortably. Places like schools, workplaces and health services were often set up by neurotypical people and may not always meet the needs of neurodivergent people. Professionals and advocacy groups are working to make these spaces more neuro-affirming, but many may require adjustments.
For example, many neurodivergent people have sensory sensitivities, which can make certain clothes feel overwhelming or painful. School or work uniforms can be especially difficult. A stiff collar, a tie, tight waistbands, seams in socks, or rough fabrics may cause real discomfort or distress, making it hard to focus, stay calm, or take part in daily tasks.
Neurodivergent people, ideally with support from their families and services around them, will often have to ask for adjustments to enable them to be at their best.
Some examples include:
- Movement breaks during lectures at school
- Uniform or dress code modifications such as not requiring a tie or button-up shirt
- Providing wiggle seats or fidget toys for students that need to move
- Additional time on exams
- Flexible work arrangements either in start/finish times or remote working
- Assistive technology like speech-to-text software
Stimming
Stimming is short for โselfโstimulating behaviour.โ It means doing the same movement, sound, or action again and again. Many autistic and neurodivergent people stim. It can help someone manage their feelings, deal with sensory input, or use up extra energy.
People may stim to calm themselves, reduce stress, or help focus. Common examples of stimming include rocking back and forth, flapping hands, spinning, tapping fingers, or walking in a pattern such as pacing.
Stimming is a normal and important way many people support their own wellbeing
Where do I start?
What should I do first if Iโm worried about my child?
Babies, children and young people develop at different rates and in different ways but tend to follow a similar path when meeting milestones in their development. Learn more about developmental milestones from UNICEF.
Sometimes families have concerns about their childโs development. As a parent or carer, you may have noticed your child experiences challenges or differences in areas like eating, sleeping, learning or carrying out everyday tasks like using the toilet. In some cases, families might be worried about behaviour, emotional wellbeing or sensory needs, such as reactions to bright lights or loud noises. These things can have a big impact on your family life.
If you are worried about your childโs development, you can speak to:
- Family doctor (GP)
- Health visitor
- School nurse
- School or nursery teacher
- Social worker
- Another professional involved in their life, e.g. paediatrician (a doctor that specialises in children and young people)
Learn more about child development and support through NHS Lothian here.
What kinds of support are usually tried first?
In Scotland, children and young people do not need a formal diagnosis of a particular condition to get the help and support at school or nursery. This is set out in the Education (Additional Support for Learning) (Scotland) Act 2004.
Support usually begins with:
- Classroom and learning adjustments
- Social and emotional support
- Wellbeing and family support
- Targeted programmes and services like Speech and Language Therapy for communication differences
- Assessment and planning through GIRFEC*
These supports often meet a child or young personโs needs. Find out more about available supports.
*Health services, schools, and local authorities all follow a framework called โGetting It Right for Every Childโ, also known as GIRFEC, to support the wellbeing of all children in Scotland. Learn more about GIRFEC.
What if my child needs more support in school?
Your child has a right to support based on need. Learn more about how to access support in school in your area:
East Lothian
Midlothian
NHS Lothian can help support you and your child through different health services, depending on your child’s age and circumstance.
- Health Visitors offer support and advice regarding the wellbeing of children until the school years. Learn more
- School Nurses work with education staff and other services to oversee the health and wellbeing needs of the school aged children and young people. Learn more
- Speech and Language Therapy work with children and young people who experience communication differences or who need support with communication. Learn more
- Occupational Therapy helps people to participate in daily life and activities to improve their health and wellbeing. Learn more
Getting It Right For Every Child (GIRFEC)
Getting it right for every child (GIRFEC) is the national approach to improving outcomes and supporting the wellbeing of children and young people by offering the right help at the right time from the right people. Learn more about GIRFEC.
For independent advice and information, contact Enquire. Enquire is a Scotlandโs national advice service for additional support for learning.
The Neurodevelopmental Pathway: Clinical Assessment and Diagnosis
How does the pathway or clinical assessment for neurodevelopmental conditions usually work?
Identification of Need โ Support โ Review โ Targeted support โ Clinical assessment (if needed) โ Post assessment support (if appropriate)
Assessment is part of a wider support system โ not the starting point. Support and resources are available when a need is identified.
What can a diagnosis help with?
A diagnosis may:
- Help explain a childโs needs
- Support access to some specialist services
- Help with some benefits and entitlements
- Guide long-term planning
What does a diagnosis not guarantee?
A diagnosis does not automatically:
- Change waiting times
- Provide additional school support
- Guarantee access to specialist services
- Replace the need for ongoing support planning
Support is based on need, no diagnosis or label.
Who might not need assessment (yet)?
Many children benefit fully from community and school-based supports without needing clinical assessment. This can include children who:
- Are making progress with the right supports
- Have mild or situational support needs
- Need adjustments rather than diagnosis
Who is a clinical assessment usually for?
Clinical ND assessment is usually for children and young people whose needs:
- Would benefit from specialist understanding to guide long-term support
- Significantly impacts daily life, learning, relationships or safety
- Continues to need high levels of support despite consistent support over time
What will happen in the clinical assessment?
Information will be gathered from different professionals in different settings. This might take some time, depending on what needs to be done. The assessments may take place in different places, such as at home, school, nursery, clinics, or using telephone or video calls.
We appreciate this can be an uncertain time for families and sometimes feel overwhelming.
Gathering information helps build a full picture of strengths, needs to put the best help and support in place. An important part of the assessment is when NHS professionals have a conversation with you about your child. During this conversation we will ask you about:
- Your childโs early development
- How your child joins in and learns in different settings and with different people
- Their understanding of language, communication, social interaction, movement and activity, play, free time, and imaginative or flexible thinking.
What does the clinical assessment evaluate?
A neurodevelopmental clinical assessment looks broadly at how your child learns, communicates, interacts, and manages everyday tasks. It usually involves gathering developmental history, observing behaviour, and using standardised tools to understand areas like social communication, attention, language, thinking skills, motor skills, and emotional or behavioural patterns. It may also include input from several professionals to build a clear picture of your childโs strengths and needs.
The NHS can diagnose the following neurodevelopmental conditions:
- Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD)
- Autism
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
- Intellectual Disability / Global Developmental Delay
- Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD)
- Developmental Language Disorder (DLD)
The NHS service does not diagnose:
- Dyslexia or dyscalculia (identified by schools)
- Auditory Processing Disorder
- Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) as a separate diagnosis
- Dysgraphia
If you have concerns about your childโs hearing, our Audiology service can provide support. Learn more.
If you have concerns about underlying language challenges, then consider making a request for assistance to Speech & Language Therapy. Find contact details here.
Support for differences in these areas is still available without a diagnosis. Visit our Support and Resources page to find supports available for a variety of difficulties and differences.
Who is part of the clinical assessment?
There may be several professionals that aid in the clinical assessment depending on the needs of your child. Those might include:
- Community Paediatricians specialise in children and young people and childhood neurodevelopmental conditions, childhood disability and other complex medical conditions. They assess a childโs health and development and determine if there are any tests or care that might help. Learn more
- Psychiatrists work with children and young people to understand their neurodevelopmental, emotional, behavioural, and mental health needs. They work with others to understand the whole picture. They can prescribe medication to help where appropriate. Learn more about CAMHS
- Nurses are trained in supporting neurodevelopmental, emotional, behavioural, and mental health needs.
- Speech and Language Therapists support children and young people who may have speech, language, and communication difficulties. They support at home, school, or nursery and in the community, to enable children to communicate, understand, engage, and participate in everyday life. Learn more
- Occupational Therapists work out how movement and sensory differences affect a childโs confidence and ability to join in everyday activities. This might include eating, dressing, going to the toilet, school, work, and play. Learn more
- Clinical Psychologists assess children and young people to understand the links between early experiences, how they think, feel, learn, and behave, and how this may affect their health, wellbeing, and development. Sometimes they offer psychological therapies, such as art, play or group therapies, where these might be helpful. Learn more about CAMHS
- Educational Psychologists work with schools to help support pupils, teachers and parents. They make school feel enjoyable and positive and help people understand how children and young people learn, behave, and develop.
Who you and your child will see will depend on the type of differences you have noticed. Other professionals who see your child now, or who have seen them in the past, may also be asked for information. For example, your child’s GP and teacher are usually asked for information.
How can Speech and Language Therapy help my child with communication difficulties?
Speech and Language Therapy supports children and young people with neurodevelopmental needs. Neurodivergent people often have communication differences that can lead to difficulties with interaction with others.
For children and young people, these include:
- Speech, language, and social communication: understanding and using words, interacting with others
- Eating, drinking, and swallowing: developing safe and effective feeding skills
- Functional communication: using strategies and tools (visual supports, talking mats, speech-generating devices)
- Emotional regulation and behaviour: expressing feelings and reducing frustration through communication
They help by:
- Providing advice and practical strategies for families and schools
- Offering early identification and assessment of communication needs
- Delivering training and capacity building for teachers, parents, and carers
- Collaborating with education and health professionals to create integrated support plans
- Supporting transitions such as starting school or moving to secondary education
Get in touch:
- Phone your local Speech and Language Therapy department for advice. Helplines are available here
- Visit their website for children and young people
- Learn more about requesting assistance from Speech and Language Therapy
Find them on social media:
- Facebook: NHS Lothian SLT
- Instagram: NHS Lothian Speech and Language
What support can Occupational Therapy (OT) provide for children and young people?
Occupational therapy (OT) helps children and young people with neurodevelopmental needs participate in everyday activities at home, school, and in the community. Their goal is to promote independence, wellbeing, and inclusion by supporting skills for daily life and adapting environments where needed.
OT focuses on enabling children to engage in activities that matter to themโwhat they call โoccupations.โ
For children and young people, these include:
- Self-care: dressing, eating, using the toilet
- Productivity: play, attending nursery or school
- Leisure: playing with friends, enjoying hobbies
They help by:
- Providing advice and practical strategies
- Offering early intervention and signposting to resources
- Delivering training and support for families and schools
- Carrying out individual assessments and tailored interventions
Get in touch:
- Children and Young People’s Occupational Therapy
- Teachers, health care professionals or social workers, can also request help from occupational therapy with the parent or carerโs consent. Request for Assistance Form
- If you are a parent or carer, you can contact the service directly on the numbers below to arrange a telephone appointment for an initial discussion.
- Edinburgh: 0131 312 1070
- East Lothian & Midlothian: 0131 446 4013
- West Lothian: 01506 524 134
Find them on social media:
Does NHS Lothian diagnose ADHD in pre-school children?
Where appropriate, ADHD assessments will be considered for children over the age of 5 years who have completed at least 1 term at school or structured learning environment. As children’s attention, concentration and emotional regulation develop at different rates, this approach means that they have time and opportunities to benefit from helpful supports and strategies. There can be many reasons why children may struggle with attention, concentration and managing their emotions, assessment within a school environment together with parent and carers experiences is a really important step in making sense of whether further ND assessment would be helpful. A consistent approach to supporting and responding to your child is also extremely important so this joined up approach is essential.
In addition, medication for ADHD is only licensed for children aged 5 years and over therefore for younger children, parenting supports are the recommended first line intervention, as well as environmental adaptations.
Learn more about ADHD in children and young people from the Royal College of Psychiatrists
Does NHS Lothian diagnose Learning/ Intellectual Disability in pre-school children?
We accept pre-school children for assessment of their development where concerns are present. Pre-school children who have delay across multiple developmental domains* may be described as having Global Developmental Delay (GDD). This is a descriptive term used in the preschool period to describe the pattern of delay. This is not the same as an intellectual disability.
Some children who have GDD in their pre-school years may later be diagnosed with an intellectual disability. The age at which this can be completed varies dependent on the childโs profile .
*Developmental domains include:
- Fine and gross motor skills.
- Cognitive, including problem-solving, memory and understanding of the world around them.
- Language, which includes understanding what’s been said and communicating in gestures, sounds and, later, speaking and sentence formation.
- Social-emotional, for example, forming relationships and manage emotions.
I’ve been told my child would benefit for an assessment. Now what?
Who can refer a child or young person for a clinical assessment?
Referrals can be made by:
- Schools
- GPs
- Health Visitors (for those under 5)
- Other professionals
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
What happens after my child has been referred for a clinical assessment?
Once a referral is received:
- The referral is screened by either Community Paediatrics or CAMHS depending on age and your child’s circumstances. In most cases, children under 7 are seen by Community Paediatrics and those over 7 are seen by CAMHS.
- If seen by CAMHS, the referrer will usually receive a letter explaining the outcome of the screening.
- If the referral is accepted, the child is placed on the waiting list. It will likely take multiple years before your child is seen for an assessment.
- Before your first clinical assessment appointment, you should be contacted by the assessment team โ usually around 3 months beforehand for CAMHS, or around 6 weeks beforehand for Community Paediatrics.
- Your childโs school will usually be contacted for further information such as the GIRFEC childโs plan and to arrange a telephone call to complete the Teacher Questionnaire.
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
What happens if the referral is not accepted for a clinical assessment?
If the ND RfA is not accepted, it may be due to one of the following reasons:
- There is not enough information, a request may be made to the referrer for more details.
- It is not the most appropriate service for the concerns raised and alternative supports will be suggested, this may include referral to CAMHS for mental health services.
In addition, it may be most appropriate for you to access support through your childโs school and your local authority. Visit Supports and Resources to find local resources and find links to your local authority’s education information above.
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
What if my child acts differently in school and home?
Differences between settings are normal and may occur for a variety of reasons. One example is masking, which is a common behaviour among neurodivergent people, especially in girls and older children. Learn more about masking above.
You can record how your child copes after school, levels of exhaustion, anxiety, meltdowns, or sleep difficulties, as these are valid indicators of need.
When seeking information about a clinical assessment, you can go through the referral forms and information gathering with your referrer to help determine if an assessment is appropriate. This is a helpful conversation to ensure that all appropriate supports are in place across home and school.
Your school may advise you that your child is receiving support at a universal level, meaning they are not needing additional supports within school. Usually for a clinical assessment to be considered, examples of significant impact in a childโs day-to-day life, at both home and another setting is needed.
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
Waiting for a Clinical Assessment
What if my childโs needs increase while waiting?
For life-threatening emergencies, please dial 999.
If you need urgent mental health support, please phone NHS 24 at 111 anytime and select “1” for Mental Health option.
If concerns increase:
- Discuss non-urgent changes with school or GP who can advise of other supports that may be available more locally. If your child is preschool, talk to your health visitor.
- Urgent mental health or physical concerns should be escalated via GP who can work with you to decide if a request for a mental health assessment through CAMHS is needed.
- If your child is not in school, has left school or is home schooled and is finding it difficult to manage their emotions, please contact your community health service.
- If your child is in school and is finding it difficult to manage their emotions, please talk to the key person at their school. They can advise about any available school counselling, anxiety management or nurture support, as well as exploring adjustments that might be helpful at home and in school.
What should I expect of clinical assessment waiting times?
Waiting times for a clinical neurodevelopmental assessment are currently very long, with some waiting multiple years. The exact waiting time can vary depending on your childโs age, and the capacity of local services. Although we canโt provide an exact timeframe, we are working hard to see children and young people as soon as we can and to prioritise those with the most urgent needs.
You can access most support without a clinical assessment or formal diagnosis. Our Supports and Resources page includes recommended materials, local and national services, and more.
Please know, clinical assessments are part of NHS Lothian, and your GP and school cannot influence or provide updates on waiting times.
NHS Lothian is redesigning the neurodevelopmental clinical assessment pathway in order to make the process more streamlined and accessible to those who need it.
What if my child is close to turning 18?
If your child is within 3 months of being 18, referrals can be made to CAMHS for a clinical assessment. Following screening and if accepted, the referral will be sent on to the Adult Services wait list for your area. The original referral date is retained.
If your child is between 16 and 18, they will be transferred to Adult Services once they are 18. The original referral date is retained.
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
What happens after a clinical assessment?
What happens if my child receives a diagnosis?
After diagnosis, your child should receive:
- Updated school support planning
- Therapy recommendations
- Advice on community supports
- Guidance on benefits and entitlements
Diagnosis does not replace ongoing planning and support โ it informs it.
What if no diagnosis is given?
Your child will still receive needs-based support. Not receiving a diagnosis does not mean support should stop.
What if I disagree with the assessment outcome?
You can:
- Ask for clarification
- Request further discussion with the assessment team
Seek independent advice (e.g. Enquire, Scottish Autism, or other advocacy services)
Can my child be re-referred in the future?
Yes. Re-referral may be appropriate if there are significant changes in needs or new information becomes available.
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
Private Assessment and Medication
Can the NHS take over ADHD medication if it’s been prescribed privately?
If a private ADHD diagnosis meets NHS standards, the ND service may take over prescribing once reviewed. Due to waiting times governance guidance, a child or young person can neither be advantaged or disadvantaged according to ability to pay for private assessment which is why children and young people who have received a diagnosis privately are required to be added to the waiting list from the date of their referral.
GPs are unable to prescribe medication for ADHD as it needs to be initiated and overseen by a healthcare professional with training and expertise in diagnosing and managing ADHD. Shared Care agreements with GPs for repeat prescriptions are in place in some practices, but the ND service maintains responsibility for on-going reviews and amendments to dose.
Do I have to wait for completion of a clinical assessment before melatonin can be prescribed?
It is not the responsibility of GPs to start melatonin, and this is usually done by specialist services (like CAMHS) as specified in clinician guidance. Individual clinicians in primary care may have sufficient experience and be prepared to start melatonin under direct guidance of an experienced prescriber from a specialty service. This guidance is available from CAMHS if requested by a GP, otherwise you will need to wait until the ND assessment if completed before a trail of melatonin can be considered.
If your child is being referred for a clinical assessment and sleep is a concern, this should be highlighted on the referral form or RfA.
The following information on developing sleep routines can help and many of this guidance should be followed even if Melatonin is prescribed:
Families can also access support from Sleep Action
Note on terms we use: Referral forms may be called a “Request for Assistance” form or “RfA” form.
Need More Support?
Visit the supports and resources page for practical advice, local services and national organisations that can help.












